The Morality of Addiction

Living in California has its benefits, namely weather. It’s also an incredible mission field. The world has come and is coming to California. This is especially true of the Bay Area, Silicon Valley. My neighborhood is quite diverse. It’s up to 40% Indian (from India). There are large numbers of people from China, Korea, and other ethnically similar countries. My is diverse neighborhood. That’s the Bay Area. That’s California. Aside from these wonderful attributes, California has its share of woes. Politically, there’s no social experiment that won’t be attempted. Experiments and programs cost money, so California is taxing itself to death on multiple and many well intended gimmicks (there’s on old saying about good intentions and where they lead). Skid Row in Los Angeles shows the wisdom of California’s social action. Needles, feces, urine, drugs, drug addicts, dead bodies, and homeless people. Most of these people on Skid Row are either mentally disturbed or drug addicted, usually both. By the way, this is “The Skid Row.” It’s been this way to one extent or the other for a long time. It serves as an illustration of the impotence of a gimmicky society to deal with its ills, which brings us to the morality of addiction.

 Today, addiction is considered an ‘illness.’ There’s a great deal of disease terminology applied to addiction. We talk about it like someone’s caught the flu, or a really bad cold—or developed cancer. People are said to have made ‘poor choices.’ Poor choices. Poor choices? Addiction is a disease. A disease? How so? Let’s talk about this.

 Before we do, let’s first acknowledge that when a person moves far enough into the abuse of alcohol, prescription drugs, illicit drugs, etc. they do in fact develop physical symptoms. Too much alcohol leads to liver disease (cirrhosis of the liver). Become too fond of cigarettes and you may develop lung cancer. Smoke crack cocaine or meth and eventually you’ll see your immune system suppressed and degraded (for variety of reasons), you’ll lose weight, become emaciated and start looking like the walking dead. Take hydrocodone or OxyContin for that bad back and take either one too long and you’ll become pain free but you’ll develop other problems. You’ll become sick, diseased. And, tragically, you may be among those who die through suicide, overdose, car accidents (injuring or killing others in the process), or complications associated with the destruction of your body and its vital organs (liver, lungs, brain, et al). You might also die while dealing drugs to buy drugs, by being robbed or attacked by other addicts, or by being injured or killed by law abiding citizens or law enforcement as they prevent you from robbing or harming others so that you can get drugs. Some die from sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) because they sold their bodies for drugs one time too many or picked the disease up from a shared needle or casual sex with another addict. All of these maladies involve disease, or sickness. Mental illness occurs eventually as one damages his or her brain beyond repair or recovery, which is why most of the people on Skid Row are there, in Los Angeles.

 How did they ‘get sick?’ Where did their addiction-disease come from (this is where the title of this essay comes from)? Let’s have an honest talk about the morality of addiction. Let’s talk cause and effect. Let’s talk common sense. Reality. What led to this heartbreak? In a word, choices. For clarity’s sake, let’s use Methamphetamine as an example. Every Meth addict chose to break the law and buy, steal, or procure and experiment with Meth. They didn’t catch Meth addiction like a cold or the flu, they flirted with it, experimented with Meth, and chose to risk the harm. Think about it. No one ingests Meth, crack cocaine, or heroine because they skipped church last Sunday, or their devotion time that morning. They elected to do what they knew society had outlawed (for good reason) and put themselves (and others) at risk. That’s not a disease. Most people don’t decide to catch a cold, the flu, or develop cancer. However, the choice to do or experiment with drugs is just that a choice. Granted, they will develop disease like symptoms eventually. But those complications associated with addiction are like self-inflicted injuries. Think of it as something akin to cliff-diving. When someone jumps off a 90+ foot cliff in Mexico into the sea below and winds up injured we do not say they were ill. We do not talk about their disease. We might think they are stupid for taking such a risk but we do not think they are diseased through no fault of their own. They, too, made a choice.

 The disease model, so popular today, pretty much fails in the realm of addiction. Why is the disease model so appealing in popular culture and pop psychology? To one degree or another the disease model is appealing because it absolves almost everyone of responsibility. It appeals to the human condition’s sense of victimhood (and entitlement). No harm… no foul… no one’s to blame. It just happened like an accident, a mistake, or a disease. I’m a victim, you’re a victim, we are all victims of circumstance. It’s nobody’s fault.

 The disease model of no-fault addiction (and its abuse) is not unlike the insanity plea in a murder case. You’d have to be crazy to murder someone right? People attempt the insanity plea more frequently than they succeed in successfully invoking and applying it to their murder case. To successfully employ an insanity plea involves proving that at the time of the crime the accused had no grasp on the gravity or reality of his or her actions. They were completely unaware that they were strangling a person or stabbing a person. In essence, they mistook the activity for walking the dog or driving to the corner market for a half gallon of milk. They were totally out of touch with reality to the point they, themselves, had no knowledge of the gravity of their actions. Where the attempt to plead insanity breaks down for people is that usually the murder, the crime, involved stealth, an attempt to get away, planning, and often an attempt to dispose of evidence or conceal involvement. Choices. Decisions. Thought. There’s usually planning, execution of the plan, and an attempt to getaway or cover one’s tracks.

 People buying drugs seldom stand on the street corner and shout at the top of their lungs (i.e. insanity plea) “where can I score some Meth (or crack)?” Drug dealers and drug purchasers typically try and conceal their activity, particularly from the police. What’s my point? They know what they are doing. They know what they are doing is illegal. They know what they are doing is wrong. They are not ill. They are stupid, selfish, or sinful—yes—but they are not ill. Their actions, as we observed earlier, may result in illness, physical and or mental. But they are not ill. Their brains (if not their consciences) are sufficiently functional. It may escalate to mental or physical illness (brain damage, liver damage, etc.) but it’s a choice and an immoral one and illegal one at that. You know: sin.

 What if they don’t agree with the law as it is on the books? Let’s shift gears. I’m a Christian. As a Christian God and His word are my priority. God’s word says in Romans:

 Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. 2 Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, 4 for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. (Romans 13:1-4)

 Who was the emperor at the times of Paul’s writing (Nero)? We don’t get to choose which laws we obey. Selective obedience is wrong. Peter along these same lines write this:

 Be subject for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether it be to the emperor as supreme, 14 or to governors as sent by him to punish those who do evil and to praise those who do good. 15 For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people. 16 Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God. 17 Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor. (1 Peter 2:13-17).

 Who was the emperor in Peter’s day? The same emperor, Nero. This brings us to the morality of addiction. To become addicted to drugs, even alcohol, you had to choose (and willingly choose) to cross a line. You didn’t catch your addiction like a cold. You didn’t contract it like cancer or the flue. You voluntarily took steps to acquire it. Addiction doesn’t strike like lightening. The addict, regretfully, chose to ignore reality and roll the dice with their lives, the lives of those who love them, and the law. And all too frequently for most, the wages of sin, the consequences of their actions is death (Romans 6:23a). Physical death, spiritual death, eternal death, death of relationships… death in all its forms.

 How do people get this way? James 1:13-16 paints a picture of the thought process:

 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. 14 But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. 15 Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. 16 Do not be deceived my beloved brothers. (James 1:13-16)

People like to blame others for their choices. They even blame God. Ultimately, they have no one to blame but themselves. Each person is enticed and lured, seduced, by his or her wrong thinking (desires). They do little ‘what if’ dress rehearsals in their heads. They slowly convince themselves that they will be able to get away with something. And after running a few mental dry runs in their head, they commit their act. They think they will be able to do what others can’t—get away with it without consequences. Verse 16 provides an apt warning and transition to the next verses: “Do not be deceived.’ Paul writing in Romans 1:18-32 confronts us with the reality that people know better. But wanting what they want (instead of what God wants) they concoct all kinds of stories and fables in order to ignore God, suppressing what they know is true. Ungrateful and unthankful for what they have they ignore God and pursue injurious behaviors to the point of their own death and along the way encourage others to do the same.

 So, let’s not talk about addiction as an illness. Let’s talk about its root cause: sin. A willful choice to do what is wrong in hopes that there will be no consequences. To be gracious, there are the 5% of people who become addicted to opiates because they spend months in a burn unit or a trauma unit with horrific injuries. Call that 5%. 95% if the time people choose to elevate themselves to godhood and demote God’s will, subordinating it to their own. When you play with fire, sooner or later you get burned. And while 12 step programs and rehab centers are better than nothing, real change starts with repentance (and faith). In the Gospel of Mark we read: “Jesus came into Galilee, proclaiming the gospel of God, and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand; repent and believe in the gospel.” (Mark 1:15). Real change begins with a saving, transforming relationship with Jesus Christ. God the Holy Spirit, speaking through the pen of Paul, writes: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17) The path to lasting change begins with Christ. The road afterwards for the addict is a long one. But apart from Christ he or she can do nothing. We all know insanity is doing the same things over and over and pretending things will be different this time. Drug abuse stems from immoral choices, that’s the morality of addiction. But there’s alway hope if we turn to Christ, surrendering our will, our rights, to Him, as God and Savior.


Do All Things Really Work Together For Good?

26 Likewise, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because7 the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. 28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,8 for those who are called according to his purpose. 29 For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30 And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. (Romans 8:26-30)

 I’d like to begin by quoting from my son-in-law’s Facebook page.

 Two years ago, today I almost lost my wife...but God had other plans. His ways are always best! I love you, Grace :)

 Ivan is not a Facebook guy. He only began ‘Facebooking’ when Grace, my daughter (then barely 23 and married only 11 months) was almost killed by a careless, neglectful driver who ran a 6 second old red stoplight at a major intersection, running my daughter down, shattering her body, giving her traumatic brain injury from blunt force trauma to her right frontal lobe (hope of personality, intellect, and other higher executive functions) also occluding her right carotid artery, resulting in two debilitating strokes on her right parietal and occipital hemispheres of her brain.

 As a result, her brain injuries, Grace has developed a rare form of life-threatening epilepsy that is largely untreatable and complicated. Ivan turned to Facebook to keep family and friends updated on her progress rather than fielding tons of phone calls. He wrote the statement above on the two-year anniversary of her accident. Today, while aspects of her recovery remain near miraculous, she is largely housebound and susceptible to seizure due to light sensitivity. She also had to learn to walk again (and talk and think). If you want to learn more about them and their lives, click here:  https://walkingwithgraceweb.com/

 Grace’s life (and Ivan’s for that matter), as well as my life and the life of our family will never, ever be the same. Due to the complexities of her condition I can only visit Grace for about 30 minutes a week, tops. Her injuries, complications, and medications will abbreviate her life.

 All of this begs the question: “Do all things really work together for good to those who love God, really?” People have asked that question of me directly, as a pastor and her dad, both verbally and silently as I continue the ministry here at Hillside Church in San Jose. I was only 5 months into “the job” when she was struck and was forced to commute back and forth and preach on weekends until we could move, she and Ivan up here. My family was in SoCal for 5 months and I was here in the Bay Area. A tough row to hoe.

 What was God thinking. Where was God? I have to confess, I’ve never been angry at God, not for one minute. Neither has Grace. Neither has Ivan, to my knowledge. Why? In short: the big picture. God causes all things to work together for good. And knowing God’s character and clinging to that knowledge like a life raft has been something like my salvation. It’s kept me focused on the big picture.

 Don’t get me wrong. It stinks that my daughter had this accident. Every day is not an easy day. In fact, no days since then have been easy days. I feel older, more tired, and sometimes bone weary. I’m sure Grace, Ivan, Teri, and Anna do too. But as a family, we try and kept hold of the larger picture. God has used this apparent tragedy in a number of ways and ministered to a lot of people through Grace’s suffering. Moreover, “All things work together for good” is not some New Age, or Eastern, mantra. And it’s not some stand-alone Bible verse that anyone should carelessly take out of context. Our strength comes from its meaning and context.

 Let’s consider the passage and its context.

 26 Likewise, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because7 the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. 28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,8 for those who are called according to his purpose. 29 For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30 And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. (Romans 8:26-30)

 We cling to what is true, fact rather than feeling:

  1. Verse 26 reminds us (as Jesus promised) we are never alone. The Holy Spirit is in us and with us forever, bearing witness to the fact that God is with us.

  2. Verse 27 reminds us that the Spirit of God not only assures us we are God’s but guides our thoughts and prayers as we seek the Father in prayer, according to the will of God.

  3. Verse 28 reminds us of what is true. Our suffering is not wasted. God, who is sovereign, has a plan for each and every person’s momentary and brief life. We were saved by grace according to the purposes of God to do the works of God, created in Christ Jesus, that we should walk in them (also see Ephesians 2:8-10). Not every path is an easy one. Not all of our callings are the same.

  4. Verses 29 and 30 is the “why” to our peace—my peace. It keeps things in perspective. This life is short, really short, and eternity is long. And eternity is what ultimately counts. God is conforming us to the image of His Son. That’s not a bad thing. Moreover, Grace (and Ivan’s) eternities are secure. As real Christ-followers, we will all spend eternity together with the Savior, in heaven. That’s the sure thing.

 Whether we are rich or poor in this life, well or unwell, whole or disabled, does not matter, really. Life is short on planet earth. Whether a person lives to see 30 or 90, in the scheme of eternity it’s all a wisp of smoke or a mist on a hill dispersed by sunlight and wind. 500,000 years from now we’ll all still be together whole, no longer seeing through a mirror dimly but we shall see Him as He is. And we will see each other as we shall be, with new bodies and callings in our heavenly home, together forever.

 I just finished preaching through the Sermon on the Mount. We are called to lay up treasure in heaven rather than on earth. The stuff of earth doesn’t last. It’s all gone in the blink of an eye or the changing of a light from green to yellow to red to green.

 My peace if found in verses 29-30 and what it says about God implicitly and explicitly. Look again.

29 For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30 And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. (Romans 8:26-30)

 Here is found the reality that enables us to see clearly through the ‘fog of war’ in this fallen world.

  •  Those whom God foreknew will be predestined to salvation (vv. 29-30a).

  • Those whom God predestined God called to Himself (v. 30b).

  • Those whom God called God justified/saved (v. 30c).

  • And those whom God saved are as good as glorified already (v. 30d).

My daughter is safe in the arms of God and we will move through this trial into our heavenly home where every tear, every pain, and every hardship will be wiped away. And there we will all be (Teri, Grace, Ivan, Anna, and I) together always… Always whole, always safe, always at peace; always with joy—always with Jesus. Life is good.

 Now, I’m certain some of you may find cause to disagree with me theologically. That’s too bad. And for those who struggle with this concept of God’s sovereignty in all things—even our salvation—I’ll spend a moment showing you what I mean. Look at verses 29-30. It all comes down to a proper understanding of foreknowledge.

 Foreknowledge has to do with intent now knowing the future. God does not simply know what will come to pass. He ordains it. Foreknowledge in both the OT and NT sense has to do with Him setting His heart among His people. He ordains who will be saved from the foundation of the world (Revelation 13:8 and Matthew 25:34).

 All those God foreknow God predestined to salvation. And those He predestined to save He called. And all He called He justified. All He called He saved. And those He saved, each and every single one, will be glorified with Him in heaven. That’s good news. There’s hope and peace and consolation in that.

 Imagine if foreknowledge had to do with simply knowing the future, like knowing who would be saved and who would not. Then our passage would make no sense at all and God would be powerless at His core:

  • Some He foreknew He predestined.

  • Some He predestined He called.

  • Some He called He justified.

  • Some He justified He glorified.

Now if all He knew about were saved, there’d be no need for a savior. Then everyone would be saved. That’s not how it works.

 It works this way:

  • All He foreknew, all He purposed to save, He predestined.

  • All He predestined He called (each and every one).

  • All He called He justified (no one slips through His fingers).

  • All He justified He glorified (God does not lose one of them—John 17:12).

 Both my daughters embraced Christ as young girls. They have loved God and loved on Christ throughout their lives since then. And no one can rip them from the Father’s hand (John 10:28-30). Ultimately, all things work together for good for them because their salvation set their eternity and every trial between salvation and home-going is to bring glory to God, good to others, and growth to them. And then after running the race, they will receive the ultimate gift of God’s grace and we will all spend eternity together. Not because we were special but because God is gracious and good—and sovereign. My peace of mind comes from knowing Him and knowing that He is bigger than all my hurts and fears—He’s got His children in His hand for all eternity. And there is peace and contentment and sanity in knowing that because one knows God. There’s more to say. Next time. But it’s true: All things really do work together for good!

 

Learning to Say 'No'

Remember “Just say no (to drugs)?” Arguably, this was one of the more sneered at and effective campaigns against drug use. However, it was deemed too simplistic and unsophisticated (most effective ideas are simple and not overly complex). Want to avoid becoming a drug addict---don’t experiment with drugs. Want to avoid becoming and unmarried teenaged mom with few prospects for the future (education, career, healthy family relationships, etc.)? Wait until the guy is willing to really ‘go all the way’ and marry you. Then give your heart and self to your husband who’s committed, really committed to you.

 That said, this “say no” campaign has nothing to do with drugs, premarital sex, etc. Its principles are found in the Bible (like the ones above):

 When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent. (Proverbs 10:19)

Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil. (Matthew 5:37)

…let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (James 1:19)

 Often people ask us for things and we have to say ‘no.’ Saying ‘no’ isn’t easy in many societies and cultures (particularly in a “shame” culture). Most people want to accommodate others, or please others. Saying ‘no’ clearly and directly often seems so ‘unmusical.’ Why? There are more than a few reasons. You may be a ‘people pleaser’ and refusing a request is hard because you so want to be liked and accepted. Or… you simply don’t want to hurt another’s feelings or disappoint or discourage them. Or you’d like to say ‘yes’ but can’t without reshuffling a schedule that is well-nigh impossible to juggle at the moment. You may simply have no interest, or you may be adamantly opposed to doing what they are asking.

 The bottom line is this: it’s often better to say simply and briefly say ‘no’ than say maybe. And definitely don’t over-talk. It’s often better to say no kindly and as briefly as possible. So, what do you say and how do you say it? Just say “no, I can’t.” If you sense the need to offer up a lengthy explanation, don’t. Here’s an illustration of avoiding saying too much. No this isn’t a biblical or moral example---the pay-off scene comes at the end of the three-minute video in the last 90 seconds. Ignore Brad Pitt’s advice but observe the practice. As Christians we are to be kind and relational. But this video demonstrates the virtue of brevity.

 Jesus says let your ‘no’ be ‘no’ and your ‘yes’ be ‘yes.’ This speaks to a principle of honesty and brevity. Solomon, in Proverbs, says ‘keep it simple.’ Don’t say more than you should or less than you need to; otherwise, sin will enter into the transaction at some level.

 Common sense helps. Often, after your ‘no’ but before your nice speech, they stop listening. Often, the more you talk the more disappointed they become (angry even). So, as James warns us, “be slow to speak” but “quick to listen.” This might check anger, or stymie anger and real hurt from entering into the equation. Everybody’s wired differently. As for me, once I hear ‘no’ I accept it. That’s it. I don’t need to be stroked or soothed or listen to a 30 second and or 30-minute justification or explanation---but that’s me. As I heard someone else say, “Just say no and shut up… answer questions if you must.” That’s not terrible advice.

 So just how is this done? Here are a few examples:

·      “I wish I could accommodate your request, but I can’t.”

·      “That sounds nice but right now I’m unable and unavailable.”

·      “I can tell this is important to you, but I have to say no.”

·      “I wish I could, but I’ve got a conflict.”

·      “I respect what you are doing but I am unable to X,Y, or Z at this time.”

·      “I’m sorry I can’t support this cause.”

 I realize that all this seems theoretical and sounds easier than it is but… think about it. Otherwise, you might say too much, over explain, or find yourself saying no a few uncomfortable times before saying something more than you wish to say. One simple, gracious ‘no’ is sufficient most of the time because people understand and don’t want to be pushy—and more than a few have been in similar situations and understand. Occasionally, you come across that person who demands an explanation and won’t take no for an answer. However, this is usually the exception. So, do the requestor and yourself a favor learn to say ‘no.’